Not an Automatic Response

You know that feeling when you overly crave and want someone so much, you feel passionately carried away. Your heart beats fast, your skin clears up (True story) and you feel like your object of affection is the reason you breathe?
      Well, that feeling isn’t love. It’s excitement. The longevity of the feeling depends on how long it takes you to get to know the person, the nitty/gritty of who they really are. If you are always together, it won’t take long for the feeling to pass. If you are far apart, it will take a very long time for this feeling to pass. The point is, no matter how long it takes, the feeling will pass. This feeling isn’t unique to love, it happens as a result of NEWNESS in every relationship. Every time you meet somebody you are interested in, you WILL experience this state of excitement.
      Then what comes next; LOVE, HATE OR INDIFFERENCE. Yope, those are your three options.
      Let’s start with indifference shall we, at this point you don’t hate or like the person. You realize they are great but not all you imagined them to be. You have a choice of either working hard to create something (if you are both interested) or you can just forget the relationship and get “Excited” about someone NEW. This continues on until you either get a grip or for as long as you live.
      HATE: Hate is defined as “a deep and emotional extreme dislike, directed against a certain object or class of objects”. In my opinion hatred occurs when you do not wish someone well, when you simply wish for them to be UNHAPPY. This is usually the end story of relationships that are entered into for all the wrong reasons.
        LOVE: That feeling of protection, the selfish, often unreasonable feeling of belonging. The most important characteristic of love in my opinion is “feeling strongly enough to wish for another person’s happiness, even when their happiness isn’t with you”. You care enough to know when to hold on and when to let go. You can’t truly LOVE when restrained, to love truly; you must give enough for it to hurt. You can’t love and “keep your options open” at the same time, Love should be a give all, take all type deal. I truly believe love is a conscious mental decision, not an automatic response. To truly love someone, you have to make the decision to place them above all else, to devote your attention to them alone, to “honor” them with your thoughts and actions, LIMITLESS, risky and selfless.
       You cannot love someone because they are good-looking; there will always be someone more attractive and at that Beauty is a temporary state of being .You cannot love someone because they are rich, they shower you with gifts, they have “swag”, and they speak well e.t.c physical attributes are TEMPORARY.
      The only thing you can truly love someone for, is their person(who they are when the world isn't watching), when you think about a person at their worst/lowest moment imaginable and you can still see yourself loving them, then you are IN-LOVE. The highest achievement in love is complete trust in your object of affection. REMEMBER THAT FEELING OF EXCITMENT? Well... it comes back when you are truly in-love, but only after you truly give everything and this time it comes to stay. :)

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I miss doing nothing next to you :(

Cheers

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